Freddie is a gentle and kind person with an amazing sense of humor, and I can see him making an incredible counselor that has wonderful insight into people.
The First Layer is a 12 step work book that will take you through the 12 steps in 21 days, which is a great thing for newbies to recovery and an oldie like me that gets tired of working the same stepwork book!
The last week has been quite an emotional journey for me as I have been finishing writing my eBook The Darkest Hour is Just Before Dawn which is made up of real life stories about drug addiction. My drug addiction stories from my life.
I really enjoyed writing this book in the beginning and it was an amazing process but as the time came closer and closer to publishing I got physically sick. At first I assumed it was just the flu but now I can feel very clearly that all the emotions that came up while writing this book have come out and made me physically ill.
Every day this week I have woken up with flu symptoms and every morning around 11am I have started with a headache which became a raging migraine by the time it was afternoon. Last night was the worst. By the time my husband got home from work my migraine was so bad I wanted to vomit.
It suddenly became clear to me that this is not flu, this is all due to me writing about my life in such an honest way, opening myself up to other people and sharing some of my most humiliating and painful experiences from my life – things that happened to me while I was in the throes of addiction.
Thank you to my husband that spent an hour rubbing my back, neck and shoulders last night to help me relax, completely taking away my migraine proving that this is just stress.
I am worried about what my mother will think when she reads it, when she can see how far down I had gone and the awful things I did and the awful things I experienced. I worry whether she will feel guilt or like she failed me.
So a special note to my parents – this book is dedicated to you. You never did anything wrong, this was out of your control.
Without your support and love for me I would never ever have made it out.
The title of the book is something my mother has often said to me when I am struggling with something. She tells me the darkest hour is just before dawn. So when things are at their darkest the sun is about to shine.
There is a darker side to this title too. The amount of times I have been awake all night, wired on drugs, are countless. It reminds me of all those mornings in my life when I realize I have done it again, when the light starts coming in the window and I realize I am a failure.
This eBook will share many of those moments with you.
Drug Addiction Stories Real Life
I bet you are wondering why I wrote this eBook about my addiction?
The first reason is because sharing about my shame and the things I have done actually frees me from them. Shame lives in dark corners of your mind, it thrives on secrets and it grows over time. Taking that shame and bringing it into the light where everyone can see it makes it smaller and it holds less power over me.
These things that I did and that happened to me were awful, but by sharing what happened I can just maybe help others. Maybe a drug addict that is stuck in the cycle of addiction will read my book and find the strength and hope to get clean. Perhaps an addict in recovery reads my book and can relate to what happened to me and his or her shame diminishes just a little bit.
Maybe a mother will read my book and understand her addict daughter and her problem better. Perhaps this mom won’t feel so much guilt afterwards and it will ease her pain.
These are all my hopes for this eBook. I hope it takes something ugly and makes something good come of it.
Alcohol Addiction Stories
Alcohol was present at the start of my journey and at the end. Drinking was the norm in my life and something that I underestimated, something that I thought was not a problem.
Alcohol is dangerous and it is a drug. The worst part of this drug for me is that it is so socially acceptable. Even being drunk is often not looked at as the serious problem that it is.
It is very addictive and very often people think that it is not as dangerous as illegal narcotics.
I don’t think so, I look at alcohol and I see my gate way drug. Yes I also smoked Marijuana – I did smoked it first when I was drunk. Yes I snorted cocaine. I tried it first when I was drunk.
Cocaine Addiction Stories
Strangely enough cocaine only showed up in my life when I was about 24 years old but it took hold of me so fast and dragged me straight down.
In a strange way I should be grateful to cocaine.
Without it I might still be limping along with my alcohol addiction, managing to convince myself that I don’t have a problem. Perhaps it helped me sink so low that I had only a few choices left… get clean, go to jail or die.
Cocaine made me stay awake for days at a time, not eating and becoming more and more delusional as time went on.
Addiction stole 15 years of my life.
From the time I was 14 years old and I started cutting myself, drinking and getting into abusive relationships until the time I was 29 years old and hopelessly hooked on cocaine.
Real Life Drug Addiction Stories
Writing this eBook was quite tricky because everything is so fuzzy. I can’t get things from that time in my life into a chronological order.
Some of the things I remember are fuzzy because of the alcohol and drugs but some of the things I have a few realities in my mind and I can’t figure out which is which.
That must sound so strange but the thing is that as an addict I had to lie a lot to save my bacon.
I would have to tell different people different versions of events, you know one to suit each person? Over time and with retelling things in different ways there are some things that happened in my life but I just can’t figure out which is the real truth.
Another difficulty I had with writing this eBook is that this is my story, but other people were involved too.
For this reason everyone in my eBook is called Bob or Jane, faceless people all with same name. The only distinction being between male and female.
And nobody in my life was called Bob or Jane so this fits nicely. All Bob’s and Jane’s are guilt free.
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Coming out next…
My intention for this eBook is that it is the first of three. I have now shared what my addiction was like, how bad it was. I am closing off that chapter for now.
My next next eBook will share my experience getting clean and the last will be my life in recovery, sharing how I stay clean.
Perhaps there will be more eBooks to come, who knows what my journey forward holds.
I recently tried to read My Booky Wook by Russell Brand. I only came across it because it was given to me by someone that I regularly trade books with. Until I saw the book I have not known any about Russell Brand except for the fact that he dated Katy Perry for a while.
I have not watched any movies featuring Russell Brand and I have not watched any of his stand up comedian shows. After coming across his book I did briefly look at his Youtube channel, I watched half a video about Rene Zellweger’s face which I found mildly amusing but couldn’t be bothered to watch to the end.
What is My Booky Wook about?
So this book is about Russell Brand’s life, his sex and love addiction, his heroin addiction and just stories from his life.
What I liked about My Booky Wook
Russell Brand tells it how it is, he is honest about his addiction problems and doesn’t hide anything. When he shares about something that happened it is raw and brutal, which really gives some insight into how addiction really is.
What I disliked about My Booky Wook
Ok Russell, I am sorry because I feel like I am attacking you personally and that is the last thing I want to do to a fellow addict. Like you were honest in your book I will have to be honest here too. I did not like this book at all, in fact I couldn’t even finish reading it.
This book was badly written, the vocabulary was ridiculous for starters. Who uses words like that? Does anyone know what those words mean? The sentence structure and grammar was appalling. I am not a stupid person but I couldn’t even understand what was being said the majority of the time. I could only read about two pages at a time and even then I couldn’t understand what I had read.
My Booky Wook is distinctly British, if you are not British you will not understand what he is on about. I am not British and I was completely lost. There are footnotes to explain all the references but really I couldn’t be bother trying to follow.
The biggest issue I had with this book though is the way he portrays his stories. I am an addict and I know how we behave when we are in an unhealthy state of mind. We glorify everything, we glamorize things… make them into cool and fun “war stories”. This behavior came through very strongly for me. I am not a counselor and I really shouldn’t pass judgement here, but my feeling is that when Russell Brand wrote this book he was very much in the throes of addiction.
It appears the honesty that I first liked could just be a way of throwing his stuff out there, like in your face? A shock tactic of “look at me, I am crazy and wild”. Another character defect common in addicts in active addiction.
Nothing wrong with that really, anyone has the right to read a book. I just had the impression he was in recovery and that perhaps I would find reading the memoirs of another addict inspiring.
What did My Booky Wook do for me?
It did nothing for me but leave me with a sick and uneasy feeling in my stomach. I’m glad this book was given to me, not as a gift but as a second hand trade. I would have been disappointed if I had spent money on this book.
Would I recommend this?
Nope I wouldn’t. However I must just share that I checked out the reviews and comments on Amazon, this book scored 3.8 stars out of 5. There were 317 reviews most of which were very positive. A lot of people found his book very entertaining and funny, they say it was brilliantly written?
I love reading, it is one of my favorite things to do to relax. I especially love reading books by other addicts. The fact I couldn’t force myself to finish this book says a lot.
For me as a recovering addict, a person that takes my recovery very seriously I don’t recommend this. Addiction is black and white. It is life or death. Yes there have been some hilarious things happen in my life and yes I can laugh about it and I can probably get you to laugh too. BUT I won’t glorify what happened or glamorize it.
Once again, sorry Russell, I am sure you are a lovely chap and I wish you all the best with your journey. I just won’t be following it.
Have you read this book? Please leave a comment if you have any feedback or questions about this review.
Unless you have heard of the book you probably think the title of my post is a little odd. Before I tell you about this book I would like to tell you how I came across it.
If you read my first post after I quit smoking you will see that I spoke about screaming Fuck It every now and then for no reason. I don’t know why I did this, it just sort of happened. The Fuck It just came out of me all on its own. The strange this is that this really helped me get through those first few days. It just released the craving a little bit for me.
Yes sometimes you just have to say Fuck It!
On hearing about my strange behaviour my sister assumed I had been practicing the Fuck It way… I said I’m sorry, what? Surely this must be a sign from my Higher Power that I need to know about this?
Anyway long story short the next time my sister came over she brought me her Fuck It book, written by John C. Parkin.
Here is my video review if you don’t feel like reading today.
What is Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way about?
John C Parkin explains how we attach way too much meaning to things. We care too much about everything and when it comes down to it these things don’t really matter much now do they? If we let go of these attachments (and say Fuck It of course) we will experience freedom and more happiness.
If you don’t understand then let me explain it to you like this. We place importance on our job, on being on time for things, on not letting people down, on our weight, on what people think of us, on everything in our lives right? Then we are in a car accident and nearly lose our life… how much do all those little things matter now? We might have lost a lot of those things that mattered so much before, like our job for example… but we have our life so it now seems really small doesn’t it. Perhaps you didn’t even like you job in the first place, yet you place so much emphasis on it anyway.
The Fuck It way teaches you how to live in the moment, how to enjoy the now and how to say Fuck It when things in your life are not what you want. Fuck It and change it, or Fuck It and accept it, but to stop making it a problem in your life.
The thing I liked the most is the great humor. Ok I agree if might not be everyone’s cup of tea and I must admit that nearly everyone that knows me thinks I have a rather peculiar sense of humor.
Here is an a excerpt from the book, one of the ways to read the book:
Another great way to read this book is to read a section, then go out and tell people how much you are enjoying it and how your life is changing by the minute. In this way you benefit yourself (good karma for spreading the word), others (who benefit from the message) and me (who’s using all the proceeds from this book to build a house made of chocolate that I will slowly eat my way through, then claim the full amount on insurance, saying it was termites, and start the whole damn thing again).
I just loved that. I also loved the fact that I started laughing out loud and my spirit felt lighter, something that happened a lot throughout this book. Not only does John C Parkin teach you some great ways to relax, de-stress, make changes (or accept things) in your life but he does it in a fun and hilarious way.
He teaches a number of simple techniques to live your life the Fuck It way and shows various techniques for meditation, which is referred to the Fuck It Form. The first few Fuck It Forms are started in the basic sofa posture, where you slump on the couch like you’re watching tv. I think this is just great, especially because I tried it out and it actually works.
This book is for everyone and anyone, whether you think you have room for improvement in your life of not. I honestly believe this will benefit everyone. Of course anyone that has a problem with profanity and find offence when people swear might just want to give this book a miss, but chances are when you saw the title of my post you left my website very quickly.
Another word of warning, there are parts of in the book that are quite blasphemous. If you are religious and take offence easily then this might not be for you. I don’t believe he intended to offend but I can certainly see how people might be upset! On that note it is interesting to see that John C Parkin’s parents were Anglican preachers.
What did this book do for me personally?
For starters it has made my heart lighter. I had so many laughs and giggles just reading the book that I think that made me a happier person. It feels good to laugh, it feels good to be happy.
I’ve applied the Fuck It Way to my life in a few ways already:
Before I even read the book I said Fuck It to smoking and it helped!
Wednesday last week was scorching hot. I said Fuck It to working, I went to the shop and bought 2 boogie boards and then picked my kids up from school early and we went to the beach.
I said Fuck It to my fears and insecurities and recorded a video for Youtube, yes for this post.
How has the Fuck It Way helped me:
I am a non smoker!
I am more relaxed
I feel lighter, more free than ever before
My kids thought I was the best mom ever and had a lovely afternoon playing at the beach
I played at the beach instead of being a moaning mom, I had fun
I have laughed more in the last 2 weeks then I have in a very long time
I have a Youtube video! YAY I have been wanting to do this for ages but I have been too scared.
Do I recommend Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way?
Fuck yes, I do! Do yourself a favor and get this book. This is one spiritual self help book that I really do believe can change your life for the better.
FYI John C Parkin and his wife Gaia have also founded a holistic centre called The Hill That Breathes in Italy. They hold regular Fuck It Weeks where they teach the Fuck It Way. I personally would love to be able to go one day.