Unless you have heard of the book you probably think the title of my post is a little odd. Before I tell you about this book I would like to tell you how I came across it.
If you read my first post after I quit smoking you will see that I spoke about screaming Fuck It every now and then for no reason. I don’t know why I did this, it just sort of happened. The Fuck It just came out of me all on its own. The strange this is that this really helped me get through those first few days. It just released the craving a little bit for me.
Yes sometimes you just have to say Fuck It!
On hearing about my strange behaviour my sister assumed I had been practicing the Fuck It way… I said I’m sorry, what? Surely this must be a sign from my Higher Power that I need to know about this?
Anyway long story short the next time my sister came over she brought me her Fuck It book, written by John C. Parkin.
Here is my video review if you don’t feel like reading today.
What is Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way about?
John C Parkin explains how we attach way too much meaning to things. We care too much about everything and when it comes down to it these things don’t really matter much now do they? If we let go of these attachments (and say Fuck It of course) we will experience freedom and more happiness.
If you don’t understand then let me explain it to you like this. We place importance on our job, on being on time for things, on not letting people down, on our weight, on what people think of us, on everything in our lives right? Then we are in a car accident and nearly lose our life… how much do all those little things matter now? We might have lost a lot of those things that mattered so much before, like our job for example… but we have our life so it now seems really small doesn’t it. Perhaps you didn’t even like you job in the first place, yet you place so much emphasis on it anyway.
The Fuck It way teaches you how to live in the moment, how to enjoy the now and how to say Fuck It when things in your life are not what you want. Fuck It and change it, or Fuck It and accept it, but to stop making it a problem in your life.
What I Liked about the Fuck It Way
The thing I liked the most is the great humor. Ok I agree if might not be everyone’s cup of tea and I must admit that nearly everyone that knows me thinks I have a rather peculiar sense of humor.
Here is an a excerpt from the book, one of the ways to read the book:
Another great way to read this book is to read a section, then go out and tell people how much you are enjoying it and how your life is changing by the minute. In this way you benefit yourself (good karma for spreading the word), others (who benefit from the message) and me (who’s using all the proceeds from this book to build a house made of chocolate that I will slowly eat my way through, then claim the full amount on insurance, saying it was termites, and start the whole damn thing again).
I just loved that. I also loved the fact that I started laughing out loud and my spirit felt lighter, something that happened a lot throughout this book. Not only does John C Parkin teach you some great ways to relax, de-stress, make changes (or accept things) in your life but he does it in a fun and hilarious way.
He teaches a number of simple techniques to live your life the Fuck It way and shows various techniques for meditation, which is referred to the Fuck It Form. The first few Fuck It Forms are started in the basic sofa posture, where you slump on the couch like you’re watching tv. I think this is just great, especially because I tried it out and it actually works.
What I Disliked about the Fuck It Way
The only thing I disliked is the book was too short. I loved this book and I wanted more! I will have to read Fuck It Therapy: The Profane with to Profound Happiness to get my fix.
Who is this for?
This book is for everyone and anyone, whether you think you have room for improvement in your life of not. I honestly believe this will benefit everyone. Of course anyone that has a problem with profanity and find offence when people swear might just want to give this book a miss, but chances are when you saw the title of my post you left my website very quickly.
Another word of warning, there are parts of in the book that are quite blasphemous. If you are religious and take offence easily then this might not be for you. I don’t believe he intended to offend but I can certainly see how people might be upset! On that note it is interesting to see that John C Parkin’s parents were Anglican preachers.
What did this book do for me personally?
For starters it has made my heart lighter. I had so many laughs and giggles just reading the book that I think that made me a happier person. It feels good to laugh, it feels good to be happy.
I’ve applied the Fuck It Way to my life in a few ways already:
- Before I even read the book I said Fuck It to smoking and it helped!
- Wednesday last week was scorching hot. I said Fuck It to working, I went to the shop and bought 2 boogie boards and then picked my kids up from school early and we went to the beach.
- I said Fuck It to my fears and insecurities and recorded a video for Youtube, yes for this post.
How has the Fuck It Way helped me:
- I am a non smoker!
- I am more relaxed
- I feel lighter, more free than ever before
- My kids thought I was the best mom ever and had a lovely afternoon playing at the beach
- I played at the beach instead of being a moaning mom, I had fun
- I have laughed more in the last 2 weeks then I have in a very long time
- I have a Youtube video! YAY I have been wanting to do this for ages but I have been too scared.
Do I recommend Fuck It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way?
Fuck yes, I do! Do yourself a favor and get this book. This is one spiritual self help book that I really do believe can change your life for the better.
FYI John C Parkin and his wife Gaia have also founded a holistic centre called The Hill That Breathes in Italy. They hold regular Fuck It Weeks where they teach the Fuck It Way. I personally would love to be able to go one day.