I am so pleased to announce that I am 6 months free from smoking and I am so happy to share my steps how to quit smoking. I honestly never ever believed that I would be able to quit smoking.
After 22 years of smoking being a smoker has almost been part of my personality, part of who Lynne is. I think I can safely say (for now anyway) that I am now a non-smoker. Wow, this feels great.
What I find just as exciting is that I can now share with you all how I managed to achieve this and share my steps, hopefully you will join me in the non-smokers club.
10 Steps How To Quit Smoking Now
1 Decide on Your Reasons for Quitting Smoking
For me there were so many obvious reasons like my health, the financial cost of smoking, the fact it stinks… and these are similar for everyone. The deciding reason for me quitting smoking comes down to my children.
About 2 months before I quit smoking my daughter came to me (with a very proud) look on her face and told me she is going to grown big like me, wear my clothes, become a mommy and smoke. I felt so ashamed and so sad that moment. She wanted to be just like me. A smoker. This is what she looked up to. She was 3 years old at this time.
This was the exact moment I realized my smoking days were coming to a close.
3 Weeks later my daughter asked me to play a game with her. I told her yes, no problem, just give me 5 minutes. She then looked at me and said “Oh are you going for a smoke first?”. There was no accusation or unhappiness in her question at all…. but it suddenly hit me that I put smoking above everything in my life. Even my children. What am I saying to my child by my behavior when I have to have a smoke before I do anything with her? It says loud and clear that smoking is more important than her.
This was the exact moment I decided I would be quitting.
So my now 4 year old daughter and my 2 year old son are my reasons for quitting smoking. I want them to have their mommy put them first at all times. And if they do come second at times, I don’t want it to be because of cigarettes! I don’t want my children to smoke and if they do, let it be because they choose to smoke, not because they are copying their mother.
2 Set A Quit Date
When I decided I was quitting I immediately spoke to my husband who was also a smoker and we agreed to quit and we set the date for 01 October 2015. This was a great feeling.
We had often spoken about the fact we should quit one day. My husband had attempted to quit smoking on a number of occasions and done quite well each time. I had never attempted to quit or even set a date before, or even agreed to quit for sure. It couldn’t have been easy or nice for my husband to quit when I was carrying on smoking.
Make your date for quitting whenever you want. Make sure you are mentally ready. If you don’t want to quit smoking you won’t succeed. Wait until you are really ready for it.
3 Tell People
Share with your friends and family that you are going to quit, tell them the date. The fact that I wrote a post about it on my website and then shared it on social media made it really hard for me to back out of my date to quit smoking!
4 No Nicotine Replacement or Cutting Down Before Hand
Until the day you quit smoke as much as you want, in fact smoke more! How addiction works is that unless you are physically consuming the thing you are addicted to, you are actually in the process of craving it. So to cut down is really just torturing yourself before you quit. Rather smoke, enjoy your cigarettes and mentally prepare yourself for the date you have set to quit.
The same goes with nicotine replacement. What is the point of quitting smoking and then giving yourself a little hit of the thing you are addicted to in another form? You will make it harder for yourself in the long run, I promise you this! So forget the patches, leave the gum and the vapes!
It really is a case of all or nothing here. Smoke or don’t smoke.
5 Read Fuck It The Ultimate Spiritual Way
This will help you so much with your mindset, this was a brilliant read and it not only helped me with quitting smoking, it also helped me change my life in so many other ways that I can’t even begin to describe. If I do try and explain all this book has done for me I will be writing a book in this article that will go off in a completely different tangent. So in the spirit of keeping it simple, read this book!
Here is my full review of Fuck It The Ultimate Spiritual Way.
6 Read Allen Carr’s Easy Way To Quit Smoking
This book was also brilliant and I need to find the time to write a review on it for you, but for now just trust me when I say you have to read this!
As an addict and an alcoholic that is going to be 8 years clean this year I saw the value in this book in the first few pages. I could see this book was going to be great. This changed the way I looked at smoking. It made me face my unrealistic fears of quitting smoking. It made me see how quitting smoking would make me free.
I highly recommend you read this book. It will give you so much more insight into smoking addiction. This will make your chances of success so much higher. It will also make the whole quitting smoking process easier on you.
7 Change Your Mindset
This is a big one and hopefully this will come about when you read Allen Carr’s book. Smoking is a trap, there is no way out unless you quit. You are chained to your cigarettes. Quitting smoking is not a loss for you, it is a gain.
The sooner you come to see this and hold onto this the better. Even though you may understand it logically, when you quit smoking it is not so easy to keep the positive mindset that you are free.
Don’t think “I can’t smoke, I mustn’t smoke”.
Think “I choose not to smoke”.
8 Do Anything BUT Smoke, Be Kind To Yourself
This addiction is strong. I told myself as long as I didn’t smoke (or drink/ take drugs) it was fine. Bring on the coffee, chips, Coke (cola not cocaine), sweets, cake…
And boy did I munch! I am now left with a sugar and caffeine addiction that I will be addressing soon, so watch out for that.
9 One Day/ Minute/ Moment at a Time
Stay in the moment, don’t think about the fact you will (hopefully) never smoke again. This will fill you with terror. Just decide that for the next 5 minutes you won’t smoke.
This is what I did. I told myself have a cup of coffee and if I still want to smoke I can drive to the shop and get some cigarettes. When the coffee was finished I told myself I am going to go for a walk on the beach and if I really want to smoke I can do it after my walk. Keep busy and just get to another point each time.
This truly works wonders.
10 One Puff is all it takes…
One puff of a cigarette and you will be smoking like a chimney again! Please trust me on this because it will happen. If you start thinking you can smoke the odd cigarette or have a puff of one now and then you are mistaken.
I still sometimes want to smoke and the thought of never smoking again (or drinking or taking drugs) fills me with fear and terror. I tell myself every day that I can smoke, I can drink and I can take drugs… but if I do I will be back where I started. I can one day do that, it just won’t be today.
Just for today I will not smoke, drink or use drugs.
I hope you have found these steps how to quit smoking helpful. I hope this will help you quit smoking and keep you a non-smoker. If you have any questions or just want to chat please leave a comment.