Reclaim Your Apartment After Living With Your Ex

It’s never a happy situation to go through, a breakup. But what’s even worse is when you go through a breakup, and you’ve still got to live with your partner, at least for a little while. With all of the stress, anxiety, and trying to avoid one another until they leave, the relationship can taint your apartment. So when they finally go, how can you reclaim the apartment as your own once again, but also make sure that you move on with your life?

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Redecorate

The first thing you should try and do is alter the feel of the place. Once your ex has finally bid goodbye to the place, it’s time to take advantage of making the space completely your own. You might need a bit of help, and there are plenty of renovation companies like World of Renovation that can help you out, or if you are struggling financially, pepper the place with some accessories that you didn’t dare hang up before. It’s your space, do what you want with it!

Don’t Let Them Get Away Without Paying Their Half

You might be blindsided with rage and so eager to get them out the door, that you could be lumbered with a massive electric bill. This could be the most difficult part of splitting up, apart from the emotional impact of course, but if they try to get away scot-free, and emails or phone calls aren’t cutting it, you are within your rights to demand they pay up. This might be an incredible annoyance, but at the end of the day, if you are struggling to make ends meet, this money can mean the difference between you staying in the apartment and moving out. Finalizing the bills is an annoying process, to say the least, but if the relationship ends on a sour note, they may try and get away without paying their fair share. Of course, this is completely unfair on you, and it may not feel like it’s worth the fight, but you are with yourself to fight your corner, especially if you’ve been putting up with so much crap during the relationship.

Give Yourself The Time To Grieve

For all of the painful aspects of breaking up with anyone, and the inevitable fall out over money, you might forget to grieve. You shared an apartment together, and it could be difficult for the first month or two, or even longer if you decide to stay there. But, there’s a reason you’re staying in this apartment, and, more than likely, it’s because it’s too good to give up! So, allow yourself the time to grieve the relationship. Yes, you have precious memories with your ex here, but life moves on, so don’t beat yourself up about the relationship ending. And, after all, and you’ve got the apartment to redecorate and make your own!

Some of us just want to move on as quickly as possible, and this means leaving the apartment behind. Sometimes though, you’ve bought an apartment, or it’s a space that’s too good to leave. It can mean a difficult transition period, but reclaiming your apartment means you can just put your stamp all over it now. You don’t need to share the space, so embrace this!

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Sticking Together Through Easy Riding and Bumpy Roads

Getting into a relationship is an exciting, butterfly spamming experience that will begin setting you up for the rest of your life. You will have no doubt gone through an endless number of relationships, from innocent schoolyard hand holding to your first serious experiences as a teenager, to university flings and then, now you are older, to your first forays into the world of an adult relationship.

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You will also, at some point, experienced heartache. This could be for any number of reasons. But some of these reasons can include immaturity, you and your previous partner wanting wholly different things, or merely just coming to the end of some finding-yourself experiment.

You will have loved and laughed and learned. As you grow older, the need to be with someone is something that slips into everybody’s mind. When you find this person, you will realise sooner rather than later that this is the person you want to be with without caring about what anybody else may think. You will accept all their faults and stand by them throughout everything that comes your way. You will stop being an I and instead become We.

Because of this, you both need to work together to hold on to one another, no matter if the road ahead looks fraught with challenges, or even if things seem to be going exceptionally well.

YOUR PROBLEMS ARE OUR PROBLEMS

Continual support for your partner throughout thick and thin is essential for fostering a relationship built on trust and transparency where you are open about anything and everything. This will allow you both to avoid any unfortunate surprises as well as feel comfortable in discussing any issues that you may have.

And these problems can range from minute issues such as the way you cook your eggs to something further, something more damaging that, if not discussed openly can have ruinous effects on your relationship. This can include things such as addictions, anxieties, doubts, and anything else that if not talked about can breed distrust and only cause further problems later on.

In situations such as this and as terrifying a prospect as discussing your supposed faults and issues with your partner, you will feel better receiving support for it all once it is said and done. Furthermore, while there is a large chance that your partner may decide it is not for them – through no fault of their own, some people just react like that – at least it will save you both further heartache down the line.

If they do decide to leave, then you should at least hope to still have their support in helping you change for the better. If not, then it is for the best you have both decided to move on. In relationships, there is no such thing as an isolated problem, and no one person is an island. However, hiding these problems from your partner will only exacerbate the issue later on.




TOGETHER WHATEVER

The fact that we can travel far and wide in the modern world has granted people the opportunity to meet anybody, anywhere and perhaps even fall in love with them. It is becoming something of a romantic tale that two people meet while in a different country, experience all the wonders of the word together and then, at the airport at the end of it all, have to say goodbye.

Long distance can be a tough thing to tackle. However, if you can make it work, then it will build a stronger relationship that is sure to last a lifetime. Before embarking on something that will change the course of your life though, you need to ensure that you can handle living together.

Visiting your partner’s country and living with them for a time can be something that will make or break your future. You will learn more about each other and be able to understand what cohabitation is like. From here, you will be able to work out any issues in the relationship and move forward. Or, you will realise that it is perhaps just not meant to be and go home.

If you do realise that this person is seriously the one, then you will eventually want to look into one of you staying permanently in the other’s home country. Those with dual citizenship for both your and their country will find these easy. However, those without it can look into more information on spouse visas which will give you everything you need regarding the transition from old home to new.

FROM DISAPPOINTMENT BLOOMS HOPE

Every couple will at some point in their lives suffer a disappointment that maybe came out of nowhere and it seems that everything is tumbling toward a downward spiral that looks impossible to recover from. This disappointment can stem from the inability to conceive, being denied a loan to buy a house and start the next stage of your life, or getting promotions at work or looking for a new job.

When this disappointment does strike, it is only natural to believe that things will only get worse. However, no matter how bleak and grim your situation may seem at the minute, it is essential that you keep your chin up and continue moving forward.

As bad as things can get, believing that things can, and will, only get better is vital to building on this disappointment and striving towards improving your situation. Taking on a positive attitude may seem impossible in any depressing situation, but letting this disappointment consume you will only make things worse, even if you felt they wouldn’t get any worse.

Understanding that your disappointment will bloom hope is the first step to making things better. While this may take time, it will pay great dividends in the long-term. No matter what the disappointment may be, looking towards ways in which you can change your situation, as opposed to wallowing in self-pity, will make the transition easier than you might have expected. You can’t predict what will happen in your life, so assuming that there is no light at the end of the tunnel is counterproductive.  Things will get better, but only if you and your partner make an effort to improve them.




CLEAN SAILING

There will be tough times in your relationship, but there will also be times where everything is perfect. These are the times where food tastes sweeter, the sky is bluer, and you hit every green light on the way to work. Life, in a word, is excellent.

And during these times you will have an extra spring in your step. You won’t fight with your partner over insignificant issues, you will look to support them in everything and be supported in return, and it feels as if you have developed a bond that no one can break.

However, as blissful as this may be, it can also lead to complacency. Just because everything is peachy and you find yourself sailing over calm waters with not a cloud in sight doesn’t mean you can begin to neglect the things that made your relationship as picturesque as it became.

A lot of couples fall into the trap of the routine. They become so comfortable in their day-to-day that they forget what ignited the spark to begin with. To avoid this, ensure that you both keep things fresh. It is not up to one individual, but both of you. Treat each other randomly throughout the week or month, surprise the other with a trip or dinner reservation. Whisk them away without telling them where you are going (not in a kidnap-y way, though) and keep things fresh.

A strong relationship takes work and don’t assume that just because you are both happy that you can afford to ease the speed. Couples will naturally lose much of the passion that was first apparent when you got together, you have to keep striving to deliver that passion, and live happily ever after.

EASY RIDES, BUMPY ROADS

It is (mostly) impossible to live out your lives together without having little disagreements every now and again. But as long as the good times outweigh the bad, then you will both continue to enjoy your time together and start a family, buy a house, and grow old together and retire to some sandy shore where you can watch the sunset every night from your balcony.

As long as you both continue to support each other through both thick and thin you needn’t worry about further problems arising between the two of you. But life is tough and often unfair, there is no predicting what might happen in the future and so it is up to the both of you to seek solutions to fix any of life’s problems together.

Share your doubts and your worries, discuss them like adults and fight for your relationship, without this fight, then you may discover yourselves drifting apart, cooking up resentment for any legitimate or sometimes imagined slights. A healthy and strong relationship can weather any storm, and you both want to be happy, and each other to be happy, too. Do everything you can to make this a reality, and go forth into the world together.

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The Hidden Benefits Of Overcoming Your Addiction

We all know about many of the leading headline benefits of overcoming an addiction to drugs. It is often these that we will think of if we are trying to encourage ourselves on the road to recovery. But there are also many hidden benefits to overcoming addictions, ones which are either hard to appreciate or rarely spoken about. We can expect to gain from focusing on these a little, as doing so will encourage us even further to continue our journey towards sobriety. To that end, here are a few of the best-hidden benefits you can expect from overcoming your addiction.

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Increased Motivation For Other Purposes

Overcoming any addiction and reaching a true state of sobriety is always a huge accomplishment, and something that inevitably goes along with that is a feeling of renewed motivation. It takes a lot of motivation and willpower in the first place to get sober, and when you succeed you realise that you are capable of more than you had previously thought. One significant result from this is that you can then apply that newfound willpower to other areas of your life. This could be another addiction which you have meant to deal with, or it might just be something as simple as choosing to watch less television. When you lose your habit, you gain a great ability to apply an improved motivation to all others aspects of your life.




Improved Oral Health

So many addictive substances are harmful for the teeth, and it, therefore, follows that giving them up is going to help your oral health along nicely. Specific addictions are particularly bad for your teeth, of course. If you are trying to quit smoking, for instance, you will find that doing so will dramatically improve the hygiene of your teeth and gums. You might even ask your local dentist to book you in with the hygienist, just to really make the most of it. When you look in the mirror and see that newfound bright smile, it’s sure to remind you of why you’re doing what you’re doing, and give you the strength to carry on.

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Mental Clarity

Many addictions have a way of dumbing down the mental faculties but often do so in such a gradual manner that you don’t even notice it happening. Then before you know it, several years down the line, your mind is not what it used to be. The good news here, of course, is that you will re-discover how quick and precise your mind can really be once you finally get sober. This is a benefit that works to improve your life in other ways too, as having a clear head can help with pretty much everything else in life. Mental clarity will enable you to think in new and original ways, and it could spark an entirely new phase of your life.

These are just three hidden benefits to overcoming addiction, but there are plenty more besides. Focus on these, and you will find it much easier to carry on to the end.

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Discover The Dark Side Of Prescription Drugs

Let’s talk about drugs. No, not those type of drugs. I’m talking about the drugs that you can buy over the counter or that you were prescribed by a medical professional. These drugs are considered to be legal, and because of their legality, we often believe them to be safe. Is this the case? Not always and there are a number of dangers linked to legal drugs that you need to be aware of. So, what are the issues with legal drugs?

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They Can Be Addictive

If you check into a rehab centre, you will often find that there are a lot of people there who are addicted to legal narcotics rather than other common culprits like coke and meth. The reason for this is simple. We are, as a nation and even globally a drug taking culture. We take supplements to keep us fit and well, we take meds to make us feel better and ensure we don’t miss days of work and we take drugs even if we’re only feeling a little under the weather. To put this in perspective, a worrying stat reveals that eighty percent of opiates are prescribed by twenty percent of prescribers. As such, there is clearly an issue here, and they can be addictive. This type of addiction can ultimately result in death. A clear sign that a prescription doesn’t make a drug safe.

Legal And Illegal?

Legal vs Illegal drugs

Perhaps you have dealt with an addiction to a drug like heroin. You might find that a rehab clinic prescribes you with a different drug to weed you off the heroin – methadone. Methadone is just as addictive as heroin, is an opiate thus has a similar impact on the brain, and it has been linked to a number of deaths in rehab patients. As such, you need to be careful how much you take and even then you could still be in danger.




Side Effects

You might think that drugs prescribed by doctors are 100 percent safe, but that’s not true. There are plenty that have serious side effects. Although the risk of these side effects can be minor, the outcome can be great if you are one of the unlucky. You can, for instance, lose your senses from smell to hearing. If you do develop hearing loss after taking a prescribed drug, it’s important to contact a doctor immediately. Researchers at the Ear Science Institute and other similar labs may be able to reverse the effects if it’s caught early enough. Can you hold your doctor accountable for this type of prescription issue? Only if they didn’t advise you of the risks before you took the drug.




Altering Your Immune System

Finally, when you take drugs, you need to realise that you can actually weaken your immune system. If you are too reliant on meds to fix a medical issue, then it’s quite possible that your body will be weaker next time it needs to deal with an illness. This is why you should make sure that you are only using drugs if an illness lasts for more than two weeks or gets worse.

You see, although legal, prescription drugs are, in many ways, no better than the pills you can score on the streets.

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Clear Your Mind: Why You Should Meditate Every Day

“The goal of meditation isn’t to control your thoughts, it’s to stop letting them control you”

Most of you will have heard of meditation. When people say ‘meditation’ they probably think about men in a monastery somewhere in China. But mediating isn’t only for the religious, and it certainly isn’t about sitting in the same spot for hours on end. It actually has many benefits and is something which many successful people do each morning to prepare for the day ahead.

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Meditation Relieves Stress

Stress is one of those things that we all experience in our daily lives. It could be from work, personal things or even addiction. Stress can cause us to become anxious, ill and even depressed. Of course, the usual methods of dealing with anxiety and depression involve going to the doctors and receiving medication or enrolling in Christian depression counselling. However, meditating for just five minutes each morning can be massively beneficial to your mental health as it allows you to focus on your body, the flow of blood in your veins and your breathing. You can lock the world out for a few moments and connect to yourself.

Self-Awareness

Meditation involves you sitting in a quiet area, closing your eyes and usually listening to a tape of some kind. The tape will usually consist of the narrator telling you to relax your muscles, calm your breathing and listen to your body functioning. Spending the time each day to sit and meditate helps you connect to your body and gives you a sense of self-awareness. It is relaxing and energising all at once.




It Encourages You To Be Healthy

Meditation can also have an unexpected benefit; it can make you want to eat more healthy and practice a healthier lifestyle. The reason for this is your self-awareness allows you to connect to your body in a more integral way, which in turn makes you want to look after your body even more. Eating healthy, unprocessed foods and practicing gentle exercise such as yoga can really make you feel alive and invigorated.

It Makes You Happy

Spending that essential ‘me time’ each day can make you feel happier in the long run. Reducing your stress levels and taking care of your body can result in you feeling happy, relaxed and full of energy.

The Practice Benefits Cardiovascular and Immune Health

It’s not just your mental health that will benefit from practicing meditation each day. It’s also your body. Meditation actually releases certain chemicals into your bloodstream which open up your blood vessels and allow your blood pressure to drop. It can be a huge help to those who suffer from high blood pressure due to stress or medication, and could even negate the use of blood pressure medication. It is certainly a great way to keep your body flowing and oxygen reaching your essential organs. Relaxation can also make your immune system stronger, meaning that the next time a bug goes round the office, you might be able to avoid it.

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Lifestyle Choices to Promote Peace of Mind

Yoga is more than a form of exercise. It’s a lifestyle! Any yogi will be familiar with the way that yoga as a practice can come to influence all sorts of areas of your life beyond your exercise regime alone. Here are a few different ways to promote peace of mind in your life.

Lifestyle choices to promote peace of mind

Practicing Mindfulness

You’ve probably seen the term “mindfulness” flung about lately. But what does it actually entail? Mindfulness is an extremely simple form of meditation. Traditional meditation encourages you to focus all of your body and mind on breathing. As air enters and leaves your body you are supposedly more capable of observing your own thoughts as they arise in your mind. You can then gain the knowledge that everything is transient, as even the most significant thoughts can float in and out of your being in just minutes. Mindfulness, on the other hand consists of observation devoid of criticism. You are encouraged to observe negativity with curiosity and detachment, not taking things personally and allowing things to pass. Practice this regularly. As you practice, you will grow more used to the routine and it will eventually become an intrinsic part of your personality.

Eliminating Worry

There are various ways that you can actively eliminate worry from your life. First you must identify your key sources of stress. For most people, the biggest cause of anxiety in their day to day existence is fear for the future. Questions of “what if something bad happens” fill bedtime thoughts and shower contemplations. Luckily, there’s a simple way to resolve this: insurance. The whole point of insurance is to guarantee your safety and wellbeing in difficult times. This can cover physical goods, for example your mobile phone, property and household possessions. However, health and life insurance can also be covered. This means that you no longer have to stress about how you will cope in times of illness or injury and how your loved ones will cope if you’re no longer able to be there for them anymore. For a quick quote, check out healthinsurancequotes.co.




Getting Organised

If you leave everything until the last minute, you expose yourself to high levels of stress as you try to rectify situations or pull things together in a short timespan. Organisation can make all the difference when it comes to peacefulness. So, instead of ignoring your work or agreements until it’s absolutely essential that you rush to complete them, start trying to get things together well before deadlines. This will allow you to enjoy more experiences, actually experiencing the results of your hard work rather than recovering from the high pressure process. You will also be able to get your head down more easily at night rather than mulling over how to get everything done on time.

These simple steps won’t take much time or effort out of your everyday life, but can put your mind at ease. Not only will this improve your yoga practice, allowing you to focus more clearly on your core and stance, but it will also improve your general happiness and wellbeing.

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Relax, Don’t Relapse

Living with any sort of addiction can have a huge impact on your life. From making it hard to live with others, to giving you a lot of trouble at work, a dependency on something like this is rarely good. Of course, though, once you’re hooked, quitting for good can be a challenge in itself. In the moment, it could feel worse to stay clean than to relapse. But, most people will regret falling back into old habits immensely. To help you out, this post will be going through some tried and true methods to help you avoid a relapse, while also helping you to claim back your life.

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  • Finding Support

However strong you think you are, getting some support during this time in your life could be a real benefit. Medical professionals, volunteers, and even law enforcement all work hard to protect people suffering from a dependency they can’t control. With reassurance and support from people like this, it can be much easier to stay driven towards quitting. Along with this, you could also consider seeking a friend or family member’s help. These people will know you better than anyone else, and may even see the signs of a relapse before you do, making it easy to work towards avoiding it.




  • Prepare For The Future

A lot of people fall back into their addiction thanks to a lack of planning. For example, it would be unwise to avoid planning time with friends when you’ve only just stopped using a substance. During this time, you will need something to occupy your mind, and being alone could make it hard to do this. Along with this, if you have to take any treatments to help with your addiction, using a site like www.sablepharmacy.com/prescription-home-delivery-service/ would help to make sure you never miss them. Relapses happen when people feel lost, alone, and helpless. With the right planning, though, you can avoid this issue completely.

  • Find New Interests

Like mentioned above, one of the best ways to get through an addiction is by trying to not to think about it. To do this, though, you have to find other things to take your attention. Picking up additional hobbies and interests is a great start here, but you might need something bigger to help you. A lot of people find their addiction makes it hard to work, often making it impossible to do their job. In this sort of case, you may have been out of work for some time. By going for something better and new, you could take away any bad feelings about this, replacing them with a feeling of satisfaction.




  • Learning

The last area to consider is learning. By learning about the addiction you have, and the way that it affects your body, it will be much easier to tell when you’re going to need some help. For example, the withdrawal symptoms for heroin and alcohol are very different. Knowing what to look for in your own ailments is a great way to make sure you don’t suffer too much, while also helping you to find new ways to make it easier.

Hopefully, this post will give you a good idea of what can be done when you’re trying to get out of an addiction. Whether you’re addicted to smoking or something much harder, this sort of effort will always be a challenge. But, once you’ve achieved it, you will finally have a new lease on life.

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