Hooked on Success – Why life is like Addiction Recovery

When a person starts out on the road to recovery from an addiction, the first steps are critical to success. It is during the first three months that most relapses occur. The former addict is clean and sober but not yet in the habit of doing the things a normal person does to avoid addiction.

Interestingly, success in life depends very much on the same skill set necessary to recover from addiction. Look at the programs of any successful treatment facility like The Recovery Village or the Swedish Medical Center and you will find an eerie similarity to the habits preached by Stephen Covey and Tony Robbins.

If success in life is as important to you as recovering from drug addiction, here’s some advice:

Write down your goals

Write down your goal

Make your goal concrete enough you can write it down. Then make a list of all the things that have to happen to get there. Prioritize the items. Which is most important? Which is second and third and so on? Consider a time-line as well. Which things need to happen first and which come later? Small, short-term goals are very important. Achieving them will let you see progress and provide something of an emotional reward.

Daily schedule

Make and keep a daily schedule

Making a schedule for yourself is not the same thing as staying busy. It is part of your plan to take the baby steps necessary to achieve the giant leaps in getting what you really want out of life. It is important at first to schedule in absolutely every little thing you will do every minute of the day. These include the times you wake up, eat, exercise, work, spend time with family and friends, and sleep.

Schedule your so-called “free time” as well, whether it includes reading, sports, or hobbies. You don’t have “free time.” Time is precious and you can’t get it back once it is lost.

Education skills aquisition

Make education and skill acquisition a priority

What is your idea of success? It should be precise, detailed, vivid, and alluring. Do you want to be a doctor? What classes will you need to take? What subject matter will you need to master? What experience will help you achieve that? Never miss an opportunity to gain knowledge and experience that will help you on your way.




Find yourself a mentor

One of the most important things you can do is find a person who has travelled the same road you will. The advice and help of a mentor is beyond price and will keep you from making costly mistakes along the way and getting lost.

Create a safe space

Distractions are many and diverse. From TV to Facebook to friends who just want to hang out, there is no end to the time-wasting activities that will pull you away from your purpose in life. Everyone needs a space they can control and to which they can get away just to think and recharge their batteries. It may be your room or a bench in the park, but you need your own private get-away.

Get friends on board

Get your friends on board with you

Share your dreams of success with those closest to you and ask for their understanding and support in helping you get where you want to go. Help and encouragement from friends can be very valuable when you get discouraged and at the very least, stop being a distraction. Nobody truly succeeds at anything on their own. We all need the help of others.

Finally, reward yourself when you achieve something special. You’re worth it!

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8 Benefits Of Recovery from Addiction

Have you ever wondered what your life may be like without your drug of choice? Yes I know the thought of quitting is scary and perhaps you have tried and didn’t make it past the withdrawals and cravings.

While I have written a lot of articles about how hard and painful addiction is I haven’t shared very much about how it feels to be free from addiction.




So many people ask me how hard it is to live in recovery and it seems a lot of people think that it is really hard and a daily struggle. There was a time when it was hard of course, where every minute was a struggle but now, nearly 9 years clean from drugs and alcohol and just over 18 months clean from nicotine the truth is that it is not hard anymore.

It is a way of life and if I do suddenly get a mental craving for a drug, alcohol or cigarettes it is so fleeting that it has little to no impact on my life.

Benefits of recovery from addiction

1 No More Secrets

Imagine not having to be dishonest about things, not having to lie and hide?

Being stuck in addiction means having to keep secrets all the time, from your family, your friends, your work colleagues and everyone else that you come into contact with.

Addiction causes so much shame and when you are in active addiction you try and hide it from everyone around you.

Until you get clean you have no idea the weight that these secrets have on you. The feeling of lightness that comes over you when you get clean from drugs but also clean from your shame and secrets.

2 No Loss Of Money To Addiction

Every addiction costs money in some way. From the more direct costs of spending money on drugs, alcohol, gambling and prostitutes to the indirect costs of things like moving home after being evicted for not paying your rent or even moving to be closer to your drug dealer.

The fact is that if you are an addict you will be wasting a lot of money directly and indirectly.

Being in recovery from addiction means that you will get to keep all your money and that is an amazing feeling.

3 No More Employment Problems

If you are an addict, chances are incredibly high that your job is being affected. Your employer may do regular drug tests and this is not pleasant if you don’t pass the test plus your work performance is probably suffering.

Losing your job is not only demoralizing, but it will impact you financially. In addition to that in the long term it will affect your working history which future employers will be interested in. If you are unable to hold down a job this will make you unemployable to a lot of business owners.

Getting clean means you are not only able to pass work drug tests, but you will be able to perform better in your job and hold down a job.

Trust me, this feels good. It makes you feel worthwhile and valuable.

4 No More Broken Relationships and Conflict

If you are in active addiction every relationship you are in will take strain, from the relationship with your family, to your intimate relationships and even your relationship with your colleagues and employer.

Getting clean means that you have a chance to repair all these damaged relationships and you can start to have close, meaningful relationships again.

5 No More Forgetting What Happened

I don’t know about you, but one of the worst things about addiction is waking up in the morning and not being able to fill in the blanks. There were times that a whole day was missing from my memory, no matter how hard I tried I could not recall anything that happened.

Imagine waking up every morning knowing you were in full control of yourself and being able to remember every little thing that you did the day before?

6 No More Apologizing

Active addiction is one long apology and it never ends. Continuously having to apologize for your actions it not pleasant. In addition to that nobody takes you seriously because you keep doing the same things to the same people. An apology just doesn’t mean anything anymore.

When you stop using and you stop causing damage with everything you do you don’t need to apologize constantly.

7 No More Drug Related Health Problems

Let’s face it, addiction causes health problems such as cocaine damage to your nose. Sometimes the damage to your health is permanent and won’t improve but very often your body can repair itself when you stop using your drug of choice. There are many health benefits to giving up alcohol and other drugs.

When you are using drugs your body takes a knock physically. Drugs cause damage to your body and your immune system will also suffer, making you prone to getting ill more often too.

In addition to physical damage from using drugs the stress and worry you are under will also add to your health problems.

When you get clean and allow your body to heal you will be amazed at how fast your health improves.

8 No More Legal Problems

Being in active addiction very often comes with a myriad of legal problems. You could have legal action taken against you for non-payment of accounts or perhaps you have been arrested for drunken driving or possession of drugs?

When you stop using you can start to live your life without fear of legal problems.

This is by no means the end of the list of benefits of recovery from addiction. If you get clean you will experience these benefits of recovery and many more. In fact I have found that now, nearly 9 years down the line that the benefits of recovery keep on coming.

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Are you tired of the spiral of emotional and physical pain? Arguing, lost careers,broken dreams and a debt that seems to never get paid off? There is a beautiful facility with a Professional medical staff to help you every step of the way. If you qualify it can be extremely affordable. They am legally bound to give very few details. but are willing to work with sincere people.

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Addiction Treatment for Recovery: The Start of my Journey

The start of my addiction treatment for recovery was a 3 week stay in a psychiatric ward.

I was still in denial and didn’t have a clue how much trouble I was in. I had blue eyes and a broken nose when I arrived there, compliments of an abusive relationship. I was covered in bruises. I believed I was a victim and had done nothing to deserve where I was in life.

Every addict will lay the blame an anything and everything but herself or himself. If we are in denial we can continue using. We can also blot out everything shameful we have done or been through by using more. And so the cycle continues…

Addiction Treatment for Recovery

Denial

During my stay there I was allowed out for a walk, giving me the perfect opportunity to find my dealer and acquire 2 grams of cocaine. On my return the staff saw immediately something was not right and tested me immediately. They considered kicking me out, but for some reason let me stay. They did make me go to my first 12 Step meeting the following day at the adjoining Addiction Clinc.

I went to the meeting and announced that I was in fact not an addict but the staff at the psychiatric ward thought I might be so I had to come join in. Sound crazy enough to you? Of course it is, I was completely delusional. What sane person leaves a psychiatric ward, takes drugs and comes back an hour later thinking this is normal?

Manipulation

On leaving the clinic I was advised by my psychiatrist to not have any mood or mind altering substances for the next 3 months. Looking back it is clear they were aware I had a serious problem. I considered this advice, to take or not to take as it pleases me. I didn’t use anything for a few days, which to me was hard core proof I didn’t have a problem. A few weeks later I managed to embarrass myself in public by getting so drunk I vomited and then fell out of a truck into my own vomit. I won’t go into too much detail on how that happened, you can use your imagination or you can read about that story and a good few more in my ebook.

Now having blue eyes and a broken nose once again did not sit well with my family that were concerned about me. They wanted me to go for addiction treatment. Once again I couldn’t figure out what all the fuss was about. I managed to convince them that I could get by with an outpatient program instead of being booked in anywhere.

This didn’t work very well for me. I continued to use and I failed every drug test. By the 3rd drug test I came to realise that I was on the verge of being kicked off the program and my family would not be pleased. Instead of telling my family I had been using I told them I was “struggling” and wanted to move out of my parents home into tertiary care, which is a home of safety. Then I told the clinic where I was doing the outpatient program that I was moving to a house of safety and could they please let me continue the program.

They allowed this and I am not sure how I managed to complete this program. I think a miscommunication between the 2 facilities must have occurred because I continued to use and neither facility tested me again.

Now I found myself living in a house of safety and trying to hide my using, not an easy task! One night I overdid, as of course I would. It was 20 minutes before our curfew when I had to be home. I was so drunk I could barely walk and high on cocaine. There was just no way I would be able to pull that off. Instead I texted the manager and told him I had “relapsed” and would contact them in the morning.

At this time I still had no concern about getting clean, it was all about manipulating everyone to leave me alone so I could continue using. I wasn’t an addict! I was just going through a wild phase right? You know, like every normal person does at some stage. The fact that this “wild phase” was going on for about 15 years didn’t really occur to me.

I had to try and get myself out of this mess without my family writing me off. I called my parents and the owner of the house of safety and said I was “ready to get clean, what must I do?”. I thought perhaps acting like I would do whatever needed to be done and following their instructions (for a little while at least) would get me some breathing space while I figured out what to do.

I was told to go into Secondary Care treatment. I happily collected my bags and off I went. Only upon signing the contract upon arrival did I get the shock of my life realizing it was a minimum 3 month stay. What happened to the 28 days thing I had heard about? Oh well, I had to do it because I didn’t really have much choice did I?

Walking the Walk & Talking the Talk

My plan at this stage was to do the recovery act for the 3 months, make it out the other side and then carry on with my life as I felt fit. For about a month I did just this. I shared in groups, I went to AA meetings and I did everything asked of me. I said what I thought they wanted to hear and I followed every suggestion. Not because I wanted to get clean, but because I honestly believed there truly was some big mistake. This wasn’t the place for me, I was misunderstood.

Slowly things must have started to sink in. All that therapy, all those groups and meetings…

Breaking through the Denial

About 6 weeks into treatment I was sitting writing an assignment and I realized a few things:

  • I am an addict!
  • I want to be clean
  • I have a Higher Power and it is working in my life
  • I have been working this program (for a little while at least, certainly not from the start)
  • I feel good, not great but good

What confused me is that I can’t pinpoint the moment something in me had changed. I realised at that moment that I knew I was an addict, but it is not a realization I had that second. I had known it for a while. When did it change?

Where did this Higher Power come from, what is it and how can I believe in God when I am not religious?

What on earth happened?

I have been clean since 02 August 2008 when I arrived at the Secondary Care rehab. I have never touched another mood or mind altering substance and that is a miracle.

I really believe that being in treatment for those 6 weeks, having recovery shoved down my throat made the change happen in me. Without that I doubt anything could have saved me. It might sound crazy but I actually enjoyed rehab, it was the first time in many years I did something for myself, something I could be proud of.

If you are an addict or alcoholic in active addiction, please do yourself a favour and book yourself in for treatment. It can be the life-changing event you need to save your life.

I am sure every addict is scared of treatment but it can be a wonderful experience. I will share more in-depth at some stage about my experiences in treatment.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and got something of value from it, please leave a comment below!

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